Caning it.

I make no secret of the fact that I hate the cane. It is a deep rooted hatred, to the point I am prepared to walk away if told I am going to get it. It’s the physics involved in the blow. All that pressure in one small line across the arse cheeks is not for me I’m afraid. Now, a good hard flogging across the back and shoulders, or the sting of a single tail on the back – well that just sends me to a very happy place and one I love going to.

So, why do I mention this. Well I have also never made any secret that I have no issue with drugs and playing when under the influence creates a different dynamic to when fully sober and aware and here comes the point of this. The other night, when with some friends we decided to have bit of a play. Three people, one submissive (me) and two Dommes makes for a happy man, especially when one of the party is a very sexy TS.

We had already taken some chemicals, as that is the way we are. One thing lead to another and I found myself bound over a stool unable to move. I could hear much discussion and giggling when they both came into view and a cane in hand. They know my hatred and have always steered clear of it in the past. But now, if I wanted what I really wanted, I would have to take 18 strikes. No complaining, no swearing, just acceptance. Here’s the rub though. Being slightly high, as they say, I was happy to do pretty much anything to get what I wanted so said yes, bring it on.

Now, I am not going to say I enjoyed it but I was in a very different place under chemical influence than I would normally be with the result that I took 18 fairly hard strikes and duly got my reward! But did I enjoy it.. no. Not a single blow. I counted each one down knowing it was one less to to and now, as a result, have a striped arse that will take a week to heal.

Is there a moral here. Not really, but drugs do make you do the most stupid things at times and I am always lead by my cock and not my brain! At the end of the day, I had fun, got fucked and played with two great friends. What more can I ask for.

Sex, and Drugs and BDSM

Eventually, I knew I would broach this topic as it seems it is one that is brushed under the carpet and never really talked about but here goes.

Firstly, I have to come clean and say that I am not totally innocent in all of this. I have taken more drugs that I can honestly remember over the years. E, Coke, MDMA, Ketamine, Amyl and very occasionally speed were the drugs of choice. Nowadays, Viagra is in the mix as well. So, why is there such a preponderance of drug usage in the fetish and BDSM scene. Of course, I can only talk about London, but it may well be the same in ever major city that has an active scene. I can remember great times in Amsterdam and Berlin where there was huge obvious drug taking, whilst in London, it seems to be slightly more circumspect with lavatories and dark corners the place of choice. From my own experience, I know that when I have taken a pill or two, I play harder and longer and end up with a lot more bruises! But the intensity of feeling, the euphoria of the moment that comes is addictive (which of course is the point of many drugs) and one that I do miss. As you may have notices, I have not mentioned Pot, Weed, Cannabis etc. Why? Well I have never smoked and therefore have never really wanted to take any of these, hence not having any knowledge of what they can do first-hand.

Of course, what makes me laugh really loudly is when I see ad's from Pro-Dommes who say they will only session with those who are drug free and yet, when I see them out and about at clubs and parties are usually totally wankered on drugs themselves! Of course, many will say this is not hypocritical, at they are putting the safety of the paying punter first. But I also see them play in clubs, so whose safety are thy putting first then? And please don't tell me that these are not paying punters, as there are many Mistress who offer to take a client to a club for a fee, so where is the line?

But I digress and have to point out that I am only highlighting an example of a Mistress offering to take paying punters to a club rather than that Mistress taking drugs..OK!.

So, is there direct correlation between drugs and BDSM/Fetish? I think yes and it comes down to personality types. For many BDSM is a way of escape, a way to live outside the accepted normal boundaries of life and be part of a community that often puts a finger up at society. It is those character types who will, by their nature, be more explorative and in turn curious about drugs. It describes many of the people I know and to a large degree myself. I don't drink, I don't smoke but I love to get out of my head now and then. Sometimes in public, more often in private with two or three others. Oh, and I mentioned Viagra at the start of the post. Gods gift to sex and drugs! That is all I have to say on that matter!

Thursday, Pedestal comes around. To be clean or to pop a pill - that is the question that I can only answer on the night.